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1 When Jesus had finished saying these things, He left Galilee and went down to the region of Judea east of the Jordan River. 2 Large crowds followed Him there, and He healed their sick. 3 Some Pharisees came and tried to trap Him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” 4 “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ 5 And He said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ 6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” 7 “Then why did Moses say in the law that a man could give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away?” they asked. 8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended.  9 And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.” 10 Jesus’ disciples then said to Him, “If this is the case, it is better not to marry!” 11 “Not everyone can accept this statement,” Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps. 12 Some are born as eunuchs, some have been made eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.”    


PS I found three commentaries particularly helpful when looking at Matthew 19:1-12 – Christ-Cantered Exposition – Exalting Jesus in Matthew, and Bible Exposition Commentary – Be Loyal (Matthew) and Ivor Powell commentaries. I have paraphrased some of their material because of their obvious desire to be faithful to the Biblical text.

In summary, the Bible tells us,

  • God invented marriage.
  • Marriage is a picture of the relationship between Christ and believers and the loving relationship believers share with Him.
  • Marriage is a covenant made with God and a man and a woman for a lifetime. (Incidentally, this means He did not include group marriages, or gay marriages or many of the other marriage departures from His original intention that we have today.)
  • God intensely dislikes (hates) divorce because it is a departure from His original intention. This is because he loves marriage and faithfulness. In the same way, we could say that God hates unbelief because He loves and wants the best for men and women. He may hate divorce but not the one divorced. He may hate unbelief but not the person who does not believe.
  • God, in His grace, regulates the anomaly of divorce, just as he forces no-one to believe in Christ. Nevertheless, …
  • There is only one reason for divorce and that is adultery due to hardheartedness.
  • There is only one reason for a broken relationship with God and that is not trusting in Christ as Lord and Saviour.
  • God is always forgiving and He is always faithful.
  • God, in Christ, will never be unfaithful to you.
  • If you are single, that singleness can be an advantage in serving God’s purposes.
  • If you are married, love your spouse in a way that pictures the love of Christ to those who respond to Him by entrusting their lives to Him.
  • If you are considering divorce, remember that divorce is an anomaly to what God intended for your marriage, and pictures hard-heartedness towards Christ and towards His love for those who entrust their lives to Him.
  • If you are divorced because of your partner’s adultery and single, rest in Christ’s love for you. Serve Christ in your singleness or possibly in a future marriage.
  • If you are divorced because of your adultery and single, admit to God that you have sinned and turn from that sin by entrusting your life to Christ and serve Him in your singleness.
  • If you are divorced because of your adultery and have remarried, admit to God that you have sinned and turn from that sin by allowing your present marriage to reflect Christ’s love for you and serve His purposes.

Pastor Ross