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Matthew 20:24 – WHEN NOT TO PRESS SEND

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When a colleague, with no thought of careful collaboration, left me out of a decision-making process and went ahead with a choice I would certainly not have made, I felt indignant. I felt left out. Consultation would have been preferred.

My annoyance found expression in a long email spelling out my simmering anger over the decision. This was my area of ministry! Why was I was ignored, passed over, left out entirely? I spelt out why I would not have made the decision. I was about to press the send button…

A. Carson observes:“One of the ironies of language is that a word like ‘minister,’ which in its roots refers to a helper, one who ‘ministers,’ has become a badge of honour and power in religion and politics.”

Matthew 20:24 (NLT) says, When the ten other disciples heard what James and John had asked, they were indignant.

Salome had asked for places of honour for her sons, James and John in the coming kingdom.

It seems the first shall be last and the last shall be first lesson had made no impression upon the disciples. Not for James or John and not for the other disciples. The other disciples were indignant. Were they jealous of the forthright nature of Salome, James and John, there blundering ability to express what everybody is secretly thinking?

The indignation of the “ten” displayed the same spirit if not the same motive as the request of the sons of Zebedee. No matter how justified they thought they might be, it had the capacity to cause a rift

What comes first, an argument or a relationship? Always a good question to ask. A rift in the relationships of His disciples is not what Jesus wants, especially at such a crucial time as this, just before He goes to the Cross.

And it is this interaction with the disciples that Jesus uses to tell them about what it really means to be a follower of Christ. The perspective He imparts gives voice to the heart of the importance of relationship.

When other people trigger off the worst in me, will I make a choice about how I respond? Will I be restrained by wisdom in my emotional responses to what other people say and do? Most of all, will respond to what Jesus is saying for my life? Will I hear His voice above the voices of others? 

I decided not to send the email. Better to calm down and preserve the relationship with my colleague by talking it though personally … later. 

Pastor Ross